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Relationships: Why Dating For Potential Is Not A Good Idea
As women, we are often pressured to lower our standards if we want to find a man. Being told that our ideal man does not exist leads many of us to believe we have to either settle or remain lonely for the rest of our lives. For the rest of us who have been told to believe that Mr. Right is a myth, we are forced to date guys for their potential — bad idea!
What is dating someone for their potential? It’s the ‘diamond in the rough’ theory. It is seeing something in someone, in hopes that they will someday grow to become that. The problem with dating for potential is that, more often than not, you see something in someone that they don’t even see in themselves. If they don’t see it in themselves, how will they ever achieve it?
Dating someone for their potential can become tiring. You find yourself always pushing your mate but they rarely motivate themselves. They’re either content where they are or they fear making life-changing risks. The potential you see in them does not exist until they have made up their mind to go for it. Often times though, you’re the one who is chasing their dream for them. It hardly ever works out.
Ladies, I know it’s difficult. Hearing a man discuss his hopes and dreams is such a turn on. Nothing is sexier than a man discussing his life goals and how he plans to achieve them. Just seeing the excitement in his eyes, hearing the rise in his voice and feeling the warmth in his blood as he talks about being the boss he is destined to be, is enough to make you orgasm on the spot. But you can’t allow that to distract you. Be able to differentiate between the men who are about that talk and the men who are about that action.
When Michelle began dating Barack, she didn’t date him because he could potentially become the president. She was with him because he was already actively working on things that made him great. He was already a scholar, they already shared similar views, he was already a great public speaker. He was going to be great whether he became America’s 44th president or not.
You’ll know when you see an “action” man. He doesn’t take “no” for an answer. He works extremely hard and doesn’t make excuses. He’s always looking for ways to advance and is hardly ever content with the everyday, mundane, path he’s on now. Every time you come across him, he has reached his goal and set another.
The “talk” man always prefaces the discussion of his goals with “I should have,” “I want to,” “I could have,” and never “I am.” There’s always a reason or an excuse for why he isn’t where he’d like to be. His sob stories play into our motherly and nurturing nature. We want to fix him because that’s what we are wired to do. We see his talents, we see what he is capable of, we see his POTENTIAL, however, if he saw his potential would he really be letting all of these excuses stand in his way?
We can’t allow ourselves to be played into loving a man’s potential. It’s okay to allow yourself to be a little selfish and want a man who is already actively working on his goals, rather than the man who is just talking about them. Don’t let society tell you that your perfect man does not exist. He does. And if you’ve worked all this time to become the perfect woman for someone, you deserve the same in return.
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From Studio to Spotlight: Meet Espago, the 2025 Breakout Artist Shaping Afro‑Fusion

At 31, Lagos-born Espago is redefining what it means to be a late bloomer in the Nigerian music
space. After spending years as a chef, designer, and farmer, Espago turned to music just a year
ago on a journey sparked by deep loss, life experience, and self-discovery.
What makes him different? It’s not just his sound, it’s his story. Espago brings a calm but
confident energy that mirrors his Lagos upbringing: a blend of vibrant Fuji rhythms and soulful
Afrobeat traditions like King Sunny Ade, shaped by global legends like Michael Jackson and
Celine Dion. His voice? Professionally trained. His brand? Stylish, grounded, and intentional.
Espago didn’t wait for the industry to find him; he found his own way in, teaching himself,
searching out producers, and building his identity from scratch. With no major label backing and
no big-name features, he has still built a brand marked by boldness, emotion, and Lagos street
authenticity.
He’s not just making music; he’s building a lifestyle brand. His creative roots are in food,
fashion, and music fused into something richer than just a “sound.” It’s a full experience. While
he hasn’t performed live yet, he’s putting in the work behind the scenes, mentoring new artists,
recording regularly to sharpen his voice and brand for bigger stages ahead.
In a scene dominated by speed, Espago’s journey is about intentional growth, honest
expression, and emotional connection.
As the new class of Afro‑HipHop begins to take shape, Espago stands out not just for what he’s
making, but for who he is becoming.
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Edo Phenom Derriq Wants to Put Benin City on the Global Map
Rising artist Derriq isn’t just making music for entertainment; he’s building a legacy rooted in culture, resilience, and pride. The Lagos-based Afro-soul and Afrobeats singer has his eyes set on something bigger than streaming numbers: putting his hometown of Benin City on the global creative map is his dream.
A native of Edo State, Derriq’s musical journey began as a child organizing school parties just for the chance to perform. Since then, he’s gone from studio assistant to full-fledged artist, releasing impactful tracks like “Position,” “Vibration,” and “Confidence.” His sound, described as smooth, calm, and party-ready, reflects the duality of his personality: laid-back yet determined, quiet but powerful.
Derriq is more than just a promising name on Nigeria’s growing music roster; he’s a symbol of the next generation of artists who blend regional identity with global appeal using his distinctive voice, a strong sense of direction, and his signature slang “Yehboo! Yezaiii!” making waves among fans, Derriq is proving that cultural authenticity still cuts through the noise.
His next single, “Omo n’ Ogie,” is a tribute to his heritage and a signal that he’s just getting started. Keep your eyes on Derriq, he’s not just singing for the moment, he’s singing for a movement.
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The Newspapers – Things You Need To Know This Sunday

Good morning! Here is today’s summary from Nigerian Newspapers:
1. President Bola Tinubu will address the nation in a broadcast today, Sunday, August 4, 2024. Mr Ajuri Ngelale, Special Adviser to the President on Media and Publicity, announced this in a statement, on Saturday, saying the broadcast would hold at 7am.
2. The Commissioner of Police in Borno State, Yusuf Lawal, on Saturday confirmed the killing of four persons along Baga Road in Maiduguri, Borno State during the nationwide #EndBadGoverment protest. He said Boko Haram elements infiltrated the protesters and killed four persons on Thursday with explosives at a filling station.
3. Many persons have been feared killed while others sustained injuries as hoodlums clashed with security operatives in Kano. It was gathered that Rijiyar Lemo, Kurna to Bachirawa areas in Fagge Local Government, Kofar Nassarawa in Kano municipal and Unguwa Uku area of Tarauni Local Government are the worst hit areas.
4. The leadership of the organised labour, on Saturday, warned the Nigeria Police Force and other security forces to stop what it described as a “massacre” of protesters carrying out nationwide demonstrations against hunger in the land.
5. Leading Human Rights group, Amnesty International Nigeria, has said over 50 protesters were arrested in Abuja on the third day of the demonstration against hardship in the land.
6. Former Vice-President Atiku Abubakar has urged the police and other security agencies to stop shooting and killing protesters demanding good governance in Nigeria. Atiku in a statement on Saturday, questioned the professionalism of the security agencies in the handling of the ongoing demonstrations.
7. Some of the organisers and supporters of the ongoing protest have set up pages to raise over N4bn through GoFundMe, a popular online crowdfunding platform. A check on Saturday showed that a total of N4.1bn had been benchmarked to be donated through accounts created by three GoFundMe users.
8. Tragedy struck again in Imo State on Saturday evening when some gunmen reportedly shot dead the President-General of Umucheke Okwe autonomous community in Onuimo Local Government Area of Imo State, Hyginus Ohazurike. Six village heads from the autonomous community were also allegedly killed by the gunmen.
9. The Federal Capital Territory Commissioner of Police, Bennett Igweh has said his men were not responsible for the death of a teenager in the Kubwa area of the FCT. In a viral video, a man claimed that police, while dispersing protesters, shot dead a teenager in the Kubwa area.
10. The Minister of Budget and Economic Planning, Atiku Bagudu has said President Bola Tinubu is keeping an eye on the ongoing #EndBadGovernance demonstrations across the country.
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